Guides

Practical guides

The pages here are about what happens after you have signed up: what to put on a profile, what to write, when to move to a call, and how to stay safe.

Writing about you

Three specific facts instead of a self-description.

First video call

How to suggest it, and what to do with ten minutes.

The first date

Where to meet, who to tell, and when to leave.

Romance scams

The pattern repeats. Here is how to spot it.

Why chats die

Three messages and then silence. Here is why.

Two steps where most people fail

The first is the profile, and mostly the photograph. It is the decision that matters more than everything else combined, and most people give it two minutes. Twenty minutes there is worth more than a month of approaches.

The second is the move from texting to a live conversation. That is where most people get stuck, and it is also the variable that most predicts whether you meet anybody at all. Texting is comfortable and teaches almost nothing.

And the part not to skip

Two guides here are about safety: one on the first date, and one on romance scams.

The romance scam works precisely on people capable of trusting, and it arrives almost always in the same order. Five minutes of reading there could save a great deal.

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