An inbox you can open
Nobody writes without permission, so there is nothing to wade through.
Serious dating
A dating app for serious relationships, when the chats keep dying
The problem is almost never a shortage of people. It is that conversations die after three messages, that there is no way to tell who wants a relationship from who is merely bored, and that every approach costs the same whether it means anything or not.
Why so many conversations die
When it is free to approach a hundred people, people approach a hundred people. None of those messages was written for you, and none of them really expects a reply. That is what turns an inbox into a place that is exhausting to open.
The predictable result is that everybody replies less, which makes everybody send more, and the spiral continues downward.
What we did differently
An approach costs one credit, charged on sending and not refunded, even if the other side declines or never answers. You pay for the approach, not for the outcome. It sounds severe, and that is precisely the point: when an approach costs something, you send it to somebody you actually want.
The receiving side sees one opening line and decides: accept, decline, or decline and block. There is no way to flood anybody. There is no inbox with a hundred unread messages.
The profile carries dating intentions, relationship status and a personal description, so the difference between somebody looking for a relationship and somebody who is not is visible before the approach rather than three weeks after it.
And then you talk, instead of texting more
Once a chat is open, messages are unlimited and free. But the aim is not to extend the texting. It is to move from it to a voice or video call inside the app.
That is the point where it becomes clear whether there is anything here. Ten minutes of conversation carries information that a fortnight of messages does not.
What actually changes
Intentions stated up front
Dating intentions and relationship status sit on the profile, before the approach.
Move to a call quickly
Voice and video inside the app, with no phone number handed over.
Frequently asked questions
How do you make sure people are serious?
We cannot verify intentions and do not claim to. What we did do is make an approach cost a credit that is not refunded, and require the receiving side to accept before any message. Both make mass, untargeted sending considerably more expensive.
Can I see who is looking for something serious?
Yes. Dating intentions and relationship status appear on the profile, and you can filter by them on the radar before approaching.
Do I get the credit back if I cancel a request?
No. The credit is charged the moment the request is sent and is not returned on cancellation. The app shows you that notice before you cancel, so the decision is made knowingly.
Is there a monthly subscription?
There is not. You buy a pack of credits once and they stay in your account without expiring. Nothing renews by itself.
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