No message without consent
One request that costs the sender something, and you decide.
For women
Dating for women: three problems, three structural answers
The three complaints that recur in every survey of dating apps are message flooding, fear of being located, and blocking that does not really block. All three are solvable by design rather than by promise.
Message flooding is not a side effect
In an app where anybody can write to anybody, the flooding lands almost always on the same group. Dozens of messages a day, most generic, some unpleasant. The result is that the inbox becomes exhausting to open, and then you stop opening it.
No filter fixes it, because the problem is volume rather than quality. The only thing that works is not allowing the message at all.
On TOKME nobody can send you a message. What they can send is one contact request with one opening line, and the sender pays a credit for it that is not refunded. You accept, decline, or decline and block. There is no inbox with a hundred unread messages, because there is no way to create one.
The fear of being located, and the technical answer
That fear is entirely justified. An app that shows an exact distance lets somebody stand in three different places, note the distance shown at each, and compute an address. The attack is called trilateration and it has worked on large, well-known services.
On TOKME your position snaps to a fixed grid of about 150 metres before any distance or bearing is computed, and bearings are rounded to 15 degree segments. The snap is deterministic, so repeated readings from the same place return the same value and cannot be averaged to sharpen it.
Raw coordinates are never sent to any user. And if that is still not enough, private mode takes you off the radar entirely: you keep browsing and approaching, and nobody sees you.
Blocking, reporting, and a photograph on your terms
A block hides both sides from each other permanently, search included, and works after a conversation has already opened. The blocked person does not stop receiving replies, they stop seeing you exist.
Reporting blocks immediately and automatically, before anybody on the team has opened it. You are protected from the moment you report. Reports reach a dedicated queue that shows how many complaints concern the same account, because the pattern is the signal.
You can also set your photograph to be revealed only after a mutual match, or use a masked date where both sides are hidden for five minutes and the mask lifts only if you both choose it.
Three mechanisms, not promises
Location snapped to a grid
About 150 metres, rounded bearings, readings that cannot be averaged.
Reporting blocks instantly
Protection applies before review, not after.
Frequently asked questions
Can somebody find out where I live?
Not from anything the app shows. Your position snaps to a grid of about 150 metres before any calculation and bearings are rounded, so repeated readings from different points still produce no address. Raw coordinates are never sent.
Can I use it without my photograph being visible?
Yes. You can set it to be revealed only after a mutual match, and private mode keeps you off the radar entirely.
What do I do about harassment?
Press report. They are blocked from you at that moment, before any review, and the report reaches the team. You can also block directly, including mid video call.
Why does sending a request cost the sender?
So it does not get sent to everybody. A free approach goes to a hundred people; one that costs something goes to somebody the sender actually meant. That is the mechanism that keeps the inbox quiet.
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